Papa D

Yup. I'm so freaking tired. My youngest wakes up at his regular schedule (7am) and I am the only one in the house that can hear him... so everyone says. Then as I get up, I go into the kitchen to find that our oldest boy has not done the dishes like his Mom told him. instead, he was up all night playing games/watching YouTube, which his Mom told him not to do until the dishes were all done. He smarted off to me and told me how I am not his dad, only his step dad and that I am a horrible at that because I cussed while he was arguing with me. I was PG compared to what drops when his Mom yells at him. I just wanted him to do what his Mom told him. I should have left it alone to let her deal with him, but I am so tired that my judgment was skewed.

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Tri-9 Defined: 1994, 1995 or 1996 B-Body.


1994 9c1- 300,000 miles and counting.

Papa D

So as said before, I got up early with Adon today. He was getting hungry, so we started to look through the snack cabinet. I found a little snack pack of nuts in the "snack box". We put all kinds of snacks for him in this box. If it is in there it is ok for him to eat. Me and Adon ate them. My wife got up and asked "Are those the nuts that Adon gave me for Mothers Day?" I suddenly remembered the gift box that was sent home with a poem talking about how the pack of nuts meant that he was "nuts" about Mommy. I feel so sick right now.

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Tri-9 Defined: 1994, 1995 or 1996 B-Body.


1994 9c1- 300,000 miles and counting.

Old Bones

Ya Papa , I worked 10 years in a refridgerated warehouse , it takes some getting used to in the summer when it's 95 outside

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1983 Caprice Classic.
350 CID. 330 HP. 380 Ft.Lbs. Torque. Turbo 350 Trans. with Cooler.
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Muad'Dib15

Your step son has no right to talk to you like that. As far as he's concerned you are his dad regardless of whether you are related to him by blood or not. He's in your house, he listens to your rules.

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tonyc712000

Muad'Dib has a point. It should be discussed with your wife, and something SHOULD be done. If this was last night. Don't let it go too long. If he was supposed to do something, and didn't, then take something he loves for a few days or a week. See how he likes that. And you should BOTH be there to tell him the whats, hows, and whys. No giving in. At all.

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Future add-ons: Chevy centers, trim rings,
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Muad'Dib15

Exactly, it sounds like your wife feels somewhat the same way about him as well. I take it you don't talk to him like she does because you're not his real dad? The good thing is that both of you are on the same page when it comes to him so there'll be no secret coddling when the big mean stepfather is gone.

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WallyLO

Papa, im sorry man, but its not your place to yell at a kid thats not yours. Unless his mom is telling you to and she is telling the kid to respect you as a father. My parents divorced when I was going into second grade so I know what im talking about. Thats something you should discuss with his mother if you havent already. Lay out some ground rules together and have her go over them with him. Im telling you man. Please consider what im saying. I know exactly what im talkimg about. And if it keeps up the way you just described, its gonna get worse and worse until he hates your guts and resents you for life. Papa, I know eactly how this kid feels.

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C.E.Divine

I think it really depends on the situation the kid comes from. I never knew my father when I was young, and my mom and I lived with my grandparents. When my mom married my stepdad, I was so excited to finally have a dad. I was four when they married. He and I always got along, even through the punishments and everything that kids always go through, but I never argued with him. I do hate him now, but those are for totally different reasons that what happened I will not discuss, but he is no longer my step dad, and he is sitting in prison until 2015 at the soonest, and has been there since 2006.

C.E.Divine

What grinds my gears is this detailing job I have been on. The two SUVs are a breeze, but the 18 foot trailer is a pain in the butt. The SUVs just need clay at and then wax, because the people keep them in immaculate shape so I told the folks 75 bucks each inside and out, because they were already in good shape. But this is the first trailer I have done, and I severely underbid at 85 bucks. It's not a lot of material, but very time consuming to wash, polish and wax.

WallyLO

Youre right devine, it does depend on the situation. Sorry if I came off as an ass papa, but I feel like I knoe exactly how the kid feels and its really not a good feeling. Of course its not okay that he was disobeying his mother, but his mother needs to take care of that.

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kingnutin

When I met my wife, she had a 2 year old, who's dad had not been in the picture at all. I came along and became dad very quickly, his biological father, who would periodically pop up and pretend to care, became known as "other dad", and later "camp dad" because he took him camping a couple times. As far as he was, and is, concerned, I AM dad. It depends on how the situation was prior, how long you've been in the picture, and how the mother feels. He's going to be 10 next month.

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WallyLO

yep. but in the end its kinda up to how the kid feels.

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kingnutin

Right, I'm just saying, if he came into the picture early on, the kid may just be in his defiant stage of life where he just wants to piss everyone off, just because he says things like that, doesn't necessarily mean he means it.

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1978 Caprice Classic Landau
350 2-bolt, stock 4bbl
Stock rebuilt TH350
Edelbrock performer cam + intake
Dual 2 1/2" Flowmaster exhuast (waiting to be installed)
Edelbrock IAS Classic shocks
95 9C1 3.08 posi
4 wheel disc brakes!
16x8 American Racing Baja's with 225/60/16 Pirelli P4's

tonyc712000

Which is why I said what I said. You may be STEP-Dad, but the word DAD is still there. It his biological father in the picture? If so, he and your wife need to get togethre. You included, because YOU are there all the time. You deserve to be part of this. It's your and your wifes house, your (together) rules. I can understand where you are coming from Wally. But still, Papa is Papa. It is his and his wifes home. He has some authority. It has to be shared with his wife. Together, and without giving in....

My ex and I always do everything we can that concerns our son TOGETHER. Especially when it comes to his schoolwork. Hope its all levelling out for you Papa....

Sorry for threadjsacking....THAT grinds my gears!! (there.)

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Future mods: CAI, and Cat-back.
Future add-ons: Chevy centers, trim rings,
Window tint

C.E.Divine

Finally broke down and registered over on taurusclub.com. It breaks my heart to have to be a member of a ford forum, but I needed to get some specific advice on moms car to do some maintenance.